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I'm writing a book about a family who adopted a traumatized 9-year old girl from Russia, and their struggle to survive amidst her violent rages — she was diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder (amidst a slew of other diagnoses including ADHD, PTSD, ODD). I recently came across a fascinating/terrifying investigative report that Reuters did last year on the phenomenon of "re-homing." It turns out that you can legally hand your child off to a complete stranger with little more than a notarized power of attorney (POA) as a "receipt". Fascinating, terrifying, heartbreaking.

Read the full report here.

The full 5-part series is worth reading.

While it's definitely true that some families are abusing the system, are irresponsible hypocrites, etc — overall, I don't actually think it's that black and white. Adoption agencies in other countries are often not forthcoming with details about a child's mental health. There are plenty of wonderful, decent, loving families that adopt older children (maybe naively and maybe not) — do their research and due-diligence, want to make a difference in the world — and then get in completely over their heads with a child whose behavior is so severe they fear for their lives (and their other children's lives) daily.

I think it's hard to imagine how traumatic it can be for families (this is exactly what the book I'm writing is about). This short article here points out that the real problem is that there are almost NO post-adoption resources for families who find themselves in these desperate situations, so adoptive families in crisis find themselves doing these despicable back alley deals. Click here for a different perspective.